It’s about time we define beauty for our own self. Do you. It’s that time where one should take the selves how they want not what someone else wants or the society. You know if you feel you want to change something, for example you don’t like your skin torn you should be free to change it from your own will not because someone else wants to.
For those who feel un attractive and you can do something about then why not. But if you comfortable with yourself like that then be proud of it caz you know the scars we have make us who we are. Our insecurities should be our strengths and be proud of them caz they tell our story.
For the lucky ones, you know those who wake up flawless and have met the societal beauty standards then good for you. Don’t diminish someone else because you are pretty no one knows about tomorrow. Things might turn around and pretty sure you won’t like the same treatment when administered to you.
You define beauty yourself so stand bold with what you believe in. Lastly always remember that being attractive is always being yourself and accepting you.
We mostly overlook on female pretty privilege and totally forget about male pretty privilege. I’m certain that those men who we appeal to be attractive must be receiving favors and privileges in one way or the other. Society has set standards for both male and female only that for the female the beauty standards seem to be a bit higher
You know those masculine, tall, dark and handsome men who leave us staring at them and salivating. Yes those with deep voices and spectacular smiles. Just imagine going to look for a job with such a man and your potential employer is a lady. Yes, exactly I’m sure you have the picture in your mind he is more like to have more chances than you.
Even when attending events ,the attractive are given the best seats while the ordinary ones are left to suffer on their own. The same way attractive female are given attention and best places in different places is the same way attractive men will face the same advantages. Though at times men mat Find It hard especially when the potential employer is a fellow men. He will be taken as a competitor.
I have a friend who feels inferior just because someone else did not acknowledge him as handsome or cute. He despises himself and at one point he fell into depression not because he wanted but just because someone’s opinion got into his mind. So we knew we had to do something. Good thing he is tall so all we had to work on was his dressing and his body.
After really working he got a good job that really boosted his outward appearance. Now the lady got to accept him just because at this point his physical appearance was finally appealing to her. Do you think that the lady is to blame?Not really. Do you think that the society is to blame? Undoubtedly.
Pretty privilege does exist it’s just that we do not acknowledge it. This issue has to be given attention before things get out of hand. Being “pretty” or “handsome” makes people look at us differently. It makes it easier for us to be more successful to put it plainly.
Some people have never felt physically attractive in their life. They always have to work extra hard in order to attain some chances in their life. Most people end up being saved by their courage and confidence. It’s not that attractive people just get things done for then but let’s be honest they really do benefit from what everyone is willing to do for them.
Here in Kenya being beautiful or handsome as per what the society describes it is important. Ladies have to have that curvy body and a lighter skin tone while men have to have that masculine body tall dark and handsome. Believe it not a bigger percentage has really benefited from their physical appearance and are successful just from it.
It’s more likely that attractive people have a higher chance of getting employed than someone who has got the skills. These are the people when in the wrong are not punished harshly. People have this judgement that pretty people are more healthier,competent and reliable than others.
The society should change their perspective of beauty. Beauty is not only skin deep but goes beyond that. If we change our perspective then we will be eaqually beautiful and handsome.
How we perceive beauty Not only influences who we are attracted to but also how we are treated and how we treat others. The society having set up beauty standards of perfection then we can argue out that beauty standards are for sure hold a great percentage of importance. Beauty is not everything but trust me it really helps in one way or the other
Thinking about it, the days that I walk out of the house looking like a homeless person makes me treated differently. I ma treated differently because my skin is blotchy and didn’t wear my make up. I am certainly not less worthy but you will hear someone ask ‘are you okay’more oftenly. Well believe it or not how we look really matters in one way or the other.
Well,. Yes beauty is not everything. Some people have managed to achieve what most people admire like the university graduates from those big universities overseas. They may be termed as lucky for having the brains but trust you me graduating from such a university looking plain comes with some few added disadvantages.
We should all love ourselves and appreciate who we are but the society does not give us a break by setting up it’s standards. You we all have those insecurities that we want to cover from being noticed not even a little. Those insecurities won’t just disappear by some one appealing that you are beautiful. Actions are needed. This is why no woman should be judged for changing the way she looks. I believe that we should be free to change what they dislike without criticism from this who are previledged to be on vogue cover page.
A woman doing make up or opting for plastic surgery to look young should not be judged. All they want is to fit in what the society terms as beauty. I’m pretty sure no one struggling with weight would want to hear ” just accept it” from someone who is petite. Of course no pregnant woman trying to Get back to her initial body would want to hear”you’ll eventually bounce back” from a woman who has a flat tummy. No, not at all.
We should be free to change our looks to how we want them. No one should judge you for putting on make up to cover acne or going for breast implant because you feel that your boobs are small. Me changing my hair color or having make up on does not mean I hate my self it means that I love my self but in a different way. I don’t think anyone should have the energy to talk trash about any one struggling to meet their own beauty standards.
I don’t know if I should entirely blame the society for putting up the high standards. All I know is that focusing on appearance brings up unwanted issues like low self esteem, depression and also eating disorders. Therefore we should acknowledge that beauty really matters and most people are struggling with what beauty means to them.
You know there are those who are lucky to wake up looking flawless. Well some of us need some eyeliner and mascara to feel on top of the world. So before anyone gains the courage to judge anyone, for changing how they look they should sit down and first check their own previledged.
Every single day I try to fight the pressure of putting on make up in order to feel pretty. Well I do feel so comfortable in my own natural beauty but you know that feeling of how make up enhances your beauty and can make you appealing to those who don’t see you beautiful that is the feeling that I want. I want to be like those models who walk confidently with their faces well made and their faces held high. That’s what I want.
There are things that really make me so reluctant when it comes to considering doing make up.Time and skills. To do your make up you have to take so much time in the mirror and do everything perfectly fine. One silly mistake can change the whole appearance and you may end up looking like a clown. I’m the type of people who just wake up shower thrown in some simple clothes and just go. Honestly I envy those girls who stand in front of the mirror each and every morning just to make themselves look pretty. Their make up is always done so perfectly and they will always look so amazing. I wish it could be that easy for me.
This people who put on make up they are ever looking glamorous. Your make up matching with your out fit well that is some good art. The perfectly drawn eyebrows and the lashes and the mixing of everything is just art. I wanna be an artist of my own face. To me being able to do make up on my own will be the greatest achievement. I hate people touching my face .
Make up is expensive. Being able to purchase all the beauty products is a hard task. You know the moment you start doing make up it’s hard to stop hence you are not supposed to run out of products. Knowing the right products to purchase can be hectic. You have to know which products goes well with your skin or what suites you best.
I really wonder how people risk it all. Sometimes using this products can greatly affect your skin and cause great damages. Some products can bleach your face others can cause rashes or cause appearance of black spots on your face especially lighter people caz they will be more visible. Doing make up will have you know what goes along with your skin.
You know being attractive is not only on the face but also the shape of the body. The physical appearance. I always feel diminished when I meet someone with a pretty face and a perfect body,you know a this waste well sized boobs and bums. Okay my body is not that bad though but you know there are standards set by the society that you have to attain in order to fit in.
Well doing make up seems like a heavy task to me and I’m not sure I can deal with.
Everything that has an advantage entails disadvantages too. We always oversee the many previledges that beauty tags along with. The many job opportunities, the many favors that one gets out of being acknowledged beautiful. Being beautiful doesn’t mean life is always beautiful. So believe it or not,being pretty has disadvantages.
Being attractive can help you get a good job but at the same time it can be an issue in case you find that the potential employer is of the same sex. This is basically jealousy since it creates a form of competition. It makes your potential employer feel threatened and you end up losing a chance even when you have the necessary skills that are required. Pretty people also end up getting a job but lack the skills or knowledge to the job. This creates a hard time to do the job and might end up losing their job.
Some times beautiful people end up losing friends and it creates lonliness. Friends to attractive people tend to have a feeling of demoralization when hanging out with their pretty friends. They end avoiding to hang out with them. Pretty people also have an issue with finding out their true friends. You know most people will befriend you only to get the previledges that you get not because they love you for who you are.
Being all beautiful makes people want to misuse you. Some people will want to use you to get some favors done and then dump you afterwards. Most pretty people are easy to convince since they think that everyone is on their side hence they end up doing what their friends want rather than what they want.
There is some attitude that people create towards attractive people. You will someone say that they hate someone because they are pretty. When they get jobs even through their own hard work they are still trolled that they got the job just because they are attractive physically. Yes beautiful people are also discriminated in one way or another.
Well being attractive requires a lot of confidence and courage to conquer whatever comes your way. It is never easy when people are all against you just because of something that is not your fault or something that you have no control about. Well being beautiful is a heavy task.
After joining college I thought life would be much easier since there was more freedom and exposure. I was so wrong. Life is pretty hard when you have to deal with discrimination and despise almost everyday due to standards of beauty. You know the lighter complexion,with silky or curly hair are the most considered as pretty. The dark complexion must are just considered as just others. Like there are pretty and beautiful people and then there are others.
With all this and experience from primary and highschool I believed that for real the pretty world is for the chosen ones(lighter complexion people). The feeling of unworthiness and feeling ugly slowly started creeping in especially when your friends are preferred as pretty. The pressure here was too much to try to fit in being the girl who prefers to stay natural instead of using makeup to enlighten the skin or enhance beauty.
Every single day of waking up going to the mirror and not seeing me being pretty was painful. Hearing my friends or any random girl get compliments of being beautiful and not me being acknowledged as beautiful made my heart just burn with anger. I wanted to feel proud of my self like they did,put a confident smile and wake bold in my own dark skin. So at some point the pressure was too much and I felt like bleaching my skin like most of my friends just to try and fit in. So that I could get all the favors and previledges they got just for only being pretty.
I even ended up started a work routine to get that which was described as a perfect body. I did bleach me because I was afraid of the consequences. I tried make up atleast once or twice to feel as if I was pretty but instead I felt weird and very uncomfortable and ended up giving up on it. Now I had to find a way to just get a compliment from someone that I’m pretty or I have something pretty.trust me the pressure to be what others perceive you is hard.
One time as I was passing by after class I just over heard someone say that “she has a pretty body” you know who they meant of course me. So I turned and smiled at them and then they added “and a smile too”.Have you ever felt like you are on top of the world. I was so happy. So from that time on I started smiling more oftenly and also try to keep my body on fit. And every day I got all sorts of compliments my friends were getting. It really felt nice.
One thing I didn’t realize is that you have to see yourself as beautiful and accept who you are for others to see you in the same way. Being proud of how you look and appreciating your self I the biggest step to take to fit in and not do what other people are doing.
Let us feel pretty and all beautiful in our own skin complexion and scars. Black is also beauty.
Society nowadays has really set up beauty standards making beauty very subjective. Of course this beauty standards can only favor those who meet them. Well those who are lucky to meet this standards often experience most social advantages and better treatments by those who find them attractive.
I think that the problem is people look at the jewelery,the make up the fashion more of the physical appearance than considering brains confidence and other more qualities. I’m very sure if we could look deeper into what beauty implies then we all are beautiful in our own ways. You know some of us or rather many of us have never gotten the chance to feel pretty or be considered pretty in our lives. We end up missing so many opportunities and previledges.
Pretty previledge is outlayed from the young all the way to the old. I remember when I was at kindergarten the pretty kids with long hair and lighter skin were mostly favored by teachers. You know when the teacher is punishing us for some mistake they will always end up spared. Being presented with unnecessary gifts. Highschool is the worst you know because people have an appealing physical appearance to the teacher always ended up getting favors and previledges. What hurts most is we could do nothing but just build or develop hate for them .
Now that I’m all grown actually it’s worse. For instance when you go for a job interview. You are qualified for the job but just because the employer thinks you ain’t pretty enough denies you a chance and grants the chance to someone else just because they are appealing to them or being denied a chance because you are dark or light.This makes someone loose self confidence in themselves like it hurts so much. That’s why most people have low self esteem and lack of believe in themselves yet they have everything it takes to do something.
Well, I think that the society should change their perspective of beauty. Each and every one holds their own percentage of beauty. Just because of what the society thinks we end up wanting to change who we are just to fit in. People end up changing their skin color just to look what someone else wanted them to be and not what they want. Being beautiful doesn’t mean physical appearance only. Courage is beauty ,brains creativity and much more, therefore this all makes us equal in one way or the other.
We should all feel pretty, either light or dark,short or tall,plump or slender we are all beautiful and should be confident about that. Always learn to accept who you are.
Whenever you feel you are not pretty or someone makes you feel like you don’t fit in then always remember that YOU DEFINE BEAUTY YOURSELF ,THE SOCIETY DOESNT DEFINE BEUTY.
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